I love Love! I always have. My parents were a wonderful example to me growing up. I was surrounded by family who loved me and each other. Even while going through my divorce, I wasn’t angry or disheartened with Love. I was angry with myself; I was angry with my soon to be ex-husband. But Love was still this beautiful, attainable idea. We had the pleasure witnessing Love at not one but TWO weddings two weekends ago. One a second marriage between two “grown-ups” and the second a first between two “kiddos”. The overwhelming feel of love and devotion at both was beyond description!
The “young ‘uns”. Miss Sarah went to school with my kids. I’ve known her since she was about 12 and played softball with Kendall (that one season K wanted to be athletic!). She was one of my “band kids” at IHS. Watching her grow into a beautiful, strong, warm, loving, compassionate young woman has been an honor and a blessing. I did not know her now husband until meeting him at the wedding, but the look on his face as she started down the aisle was all I needed to be assured that he was indeed totally in love with my young friend! The weather was perfect, the Bride beautiful! It was sweet and genuine. And so much fun! What a joy to watch young love unfold!
And Shelly. What Jimmy and I were able to witness Saturday morning, in a beautiful little rock chapel, was nothing short of God’s abundant blessing and answer to prayer. I had many friends who walked beside me as I tried to navigate divorce and life after, and I am more thankful and grateful than can be put into words. But this dear sweet friend, was walking WITH me, truly. She was doing the same in her own life, at the same time. We have cried and fussed and screamed and laughed and cried some more. Eaten and not eaten; slept and not slept; and cried some more! And prayed. And prayed. And prayed! What we asked God for was His timing, if we were to find love again. Then for His peace as we waited (which neither of us does very well!) and healed and started over. She absolutely GLOWED as she looked into the eyes of the wonderful man God provided and they vowed to love each other until they are parted by death. I don’t think I’ve ever seen anyone so beautiful!
I know how she felt. When God opened the door, and my heart, to the possibility of an “adjustment” (as Jimmy says) of our friendship, my whole world changed. I remember thinking, as we stood looking at each other during our ceremony, “This is how Love should feel. I just want to remember this feeling right here. No one else matters, absorb this moment.” And I did. Every single word, the look on his face, the love in his beautiful blue eyes. I am married to the kindest man I’ve ever known. I’ve always felt that way, since we were 14. Now I just get to see it in different ways. He is gentle, sweet, loving – there aren’t enough adjectives! He is also strong and fiercely loyal, and I have not a single doubt that he has my back whatever comes our way. I know that I know that God did this. He allowed us to become friends all those years ago. That is the very best foundation for a marriage. And I think we have the best marriage ever!
As I’ve prayed for these new couples this week, I’ve asked God to bless them; to teach them to be best friends. If I have any advice, it’s this – do not take one single moment for granted. Show/tell your spouse how much you appreciate them and every little thing they do for you. And laugh – a lot! Even when you get irritated, step back and see the situation for what it really is, not what it’s blowing up to be in your own head (hmmmm – listen to my own advice maybe?!). Most conflicts are just white noise. Don’t let that drown out the beautiful song you are writing together!
The weekend was filled with beautiful weather and beautiful people. Sunshine and joy and FOOD and fun! And was just confirmation that in the end, Love wins!!